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Choosing Your Maid of Honor: The Virtual Wedding Planner’s Guide

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When it comes to planning your wedding, selecting the right Maid of Honor is a decision that can significantly impact your big day. In the era of virtual wedding planning, where technology bridges the gap between distance and celebration, your Maid of Honor plays a crucial role in ensuring that your wedding goes off without a hitch. In this guide, we’ll explore best practices for choosing your Maid of Honor while keeping the virtual wedding planner perspective in mind.

If you’re new around here, I’m Kristen. A wedding planner with over 10 years of experience and the founder of virtual wedding planning subscription, Plan On Demand. Plan On Demand gives you direct access to an award-winning wedding planner via text message. As a member, you can text me anytime, from anywhere and get personalized, professional answers and advice texted back to you within 24 hours.

Why Your Maid of Honor Matters

Before delving into the selection process, let’s review why your choice of Maid of Honor is essential in the first place. Your Maid of Honor is your right-hand person, your confidante, and your chief supporter. They are responsible for not only helping you plan your wedding but also for providing emotional support during what can be a stressful time.

With a virtual wedding planner on your team, you have expert guidance at your fingertips. But your Maid of Honor brings a personal touch, ensuring that your unique vision for your wedding is realized. Here are some best practices for making this important decision:

Trust and Communication

In the world of virtual wedding planning, communication is key. Your Maid of Honor should be someone you trust whole-heartedly and with whom you can communicate openly. In virtual wedding planning, you’ll likely rely on video calls, emails, and messages to collaborate with your wedding planner. Your Maid of Honor should be able to take everything you planned virtually over the last year or so, and help you facilitate seamless coordination on the big day.

Shared Vision

Your Maid of Honor should align with your vision for the wedding. This is particularly crucial when working with a virtual wedding planner who can help translate your ideas into reality. Choose someone who understands your style, preferences, and the overall vibe you want to create on your special day.

Organizational Skills

While your virtual wedding planner handles many logistics, your Maid of Honor will still play a significant role in coordinating various aspects of your wedding. Look for someone who is organized, detail-oriented, and can manage timelines and schedules effectively.

Emotional Support

Planning a wedding can be emotionally draining at times. Your Maid of Honor should be someone who can provide emotional support when needed. They should be your cheerleader, offering encouragement and a shoulder to lean on during moments of stress.

Availability and Commitment

Your virtual wedding planner will be accessible within specified hours, but your Maid of Honor should be available when you need them. Ensure that your chosen Maid of Honor can commit to helping you throughout the wedding planning process, from start to finish.

Problem-Solving Skills

No matter how well you plan, unexpected challenges can arise during a wedding. Your Maid of Honor should be a quick thinker and adept problem solver. They should be ready to tackle any last-minute issues that may crop up.

Delegation Skills

In the virtual wedding planning world, delegation is a key skill. Your virtual wedding planner will delegate tasks to various vendors and suppliers. Similarly, your Maid of Honor should be comfortable delegating responsibilities within the bridal party to ensure that everyone is on the same page and that tasks are completed efficiently.


While experience isn’t the only factor to consider, it can be valuable. A Maid of Honor with some experience in wedding planning or event coordination can be an asset. They may have insights and ideas that align with your vision and the expertise to bring them to life.


Finally, your Maid of Honor should be someone you can depend on. You need to know that they will follow through on their commitments and be there when you need them most, just as you can depend on your virtual wedding planner.

Incorporating Your Virtual Wedding Planner

Now that we’ve outlined the qualities to look for in your Maid of Honor, it’s essential to understand how they’ll work hand-in-hand with your virtual wedding planner. Here’s how these two crucial roles can complement each other:

  1. Clear Communication. Ensure that your Maid of Honor and virtual wedding planner have open lines of communication. They should be in sync regarding your wedding vision, preferences, and any specific tasks or responsibilities.
  2. Coordination. Your Maid of Honor can act as a liaison between you and your virtual wedding planner when necessary. They can help schedule appointments, coordinate with vendors, and manage details that require attention.
  3. Emotional Support. While your virtual wedding planner can provide professional guidance, your Maid of Honor can offer emotional support and reassurance during moments of uncertainty or stress. Their personal connection to you makes this role unique.
  4. Day-of Assistance. On the day of your wedding, your Maid of Honor can help execute the plan crafted by your virtual wedding planner. They can oversee last-minute details, assist with dressing, and ensure that everything runs according to schedule.

Conclusion: The Perfect Duo

In the world of modern weddings, combining a virtual wedding planner with a dedicated Maid of Honor can make your wedding experience exceptional. Your virtual wedding planner brings expertise, technology, and professional guidance, while your Maid of Honor adds a personal touch, emotional support, and on-the-ground coordination.

Remember that your choice of Maid of Honor is a reflection of your trust and a commitment to making your wedding day as magical as possible. With a well-chosen Maid of Honor by your side, and the support of your virtual wedding planner, you’re well on your way to planning the wedding of your dreams.

So, if you’re ready to plan your wedding with the assistance of a virtual wedding planner, don’t forget to choose a Maid of Honor who will stand with you every step of the way. Your wedding day is a significant milestone, and with the right team, it will be a memory to cherish forever.

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